How To Gain Rapport

Do you want to gain rapport with someone you like, but you don't know how?

Does this person you want to gain rapport with talk in a low or high voice? Does s/he talk fast or slow? Does s/he talk in a way that almost every sentence ends in a question?

What would happen if, while talking to the same person, you talked in the same high or low voice? Fast or slow as s/he does? End your sentence with a question, if s/he does?

Does the person you want to gain rapport with gesture a lot? Look you in the eye, or avoid your eyes? Touch you on your shoulder or back?

What would happen if, while talking to the same person, you gestured a lot? Looked or didn't look him or her in the eye, or avoid his or her eyes? Touched him or her on the shoulder or back?

What would be computing in his or her brain? *You are a lot like me!* That's whom most people like -- someone who is a lot like them. Someone who *obviously* understands them, speaks the same language, etc.

OK, now you know the goal -- you want them to feel comfortable with you and even, yes, LIKE you. Here's a process that will help you accomplish that.

Let's say you both frequent the coffee shop downtown, the water cooler in the office, or the same grocery store on the same night. In your mind, visualize that person you want to gain rapport with in that meeting place. Now, visualize you walking in. From the minute you see him/her, you adapt his/her mannerisms and speech patterns. Not obviously, of course, but her/his subconscious will definitely pick up on it, and immediately feel comfortable with you. When that person feels comfortable with you, guess what? You've gained rapport. Now, be nice and enjoy it as much as that person does.

Thanks for reading.

Jan

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