Better The Communication, Better The Relations

A human being is that social animal that lives dependent on relationships and yet far too often makes them turn sour. And all the while humans live in groups for their own good and for the benefit of the other group members.

Human groups can be small, like families, and as big as in towns. Irrespective of the group size, all humans have something in common. Human life is formed of inter-woven relationships, some of which are from birth while others grow as we grow up.

From very early age we learn how to respect the relationships with the people who live with us or near us. With our lives so much wrapped up in different kinds of relationships, why are we are forced to think about what can be done to make our relationships stronger and more stable?

For a human being it is not difficult to unravel an entangled relationship. The only thing one needs to do is to listen carefully to others and understand their viewpoint.

Neither does a human need to put in lot of effort nor does he need to have a degree in psychology to understand that if he doesn't listen to others or doesn't understand others view point, he might destroy the fragile bond.

One must have compassion for others' feelings and try to understand the reason for someone's disagreement from their own position. If you listen to others then it will become easier for you to resolve problems. You need not do what others say; you just need to listen to them.

The art of communication is a bilateral process and its up to you to ensure that others have understood your viewpoint. It's not the just listener's responsibility to fig out the apparent differences between what you say and what you mean.

And the easiest way to create problems in communication is by wrapping your words in such a way that the real meaning is lost and it sounds like some thing else.

A listener will never understand why you are changing your words and telling some thing else in place of truth. To keep your relationships clear you need to keep your communication clear.

Words may have different meaning for different persons. To understand what the other person is saying, you need to take his words without filtering or interpretation because each one of us has our own way of using words.

If you are not clear about something that the other person is saying, you need to clarify by simply asking "I hear you saying...., is that what you mean?"

When all the veneer is stripped off, relationships are about communication. When you take the time to learn how to effectively communicate with people with whom you interact, you build bridges from yourself to that person.

The stronger those bridges are, they more stress they are able to withstand. This is the difference between relationships that crumble in times of stress and lasting bonds that help support people in their times of worst trouble and brings them together in their times of greatest joy.

2005 Rupert Caldini. All rights reserved. Rupert Caldini is the owner of Relationships Radio - one of the the premier information resources on relationships related topics. Be sure to visit his web site, and get immediate access to his archive of articles here: http://www.relationshipsradio.com/newsletters/.