7 Things Happy People Have In Common
Kathy Gates, Professional
Life Coach
Ever notice how some people just seem to be able to
be content and bounce back no matter what the circumstances? Research
shows that this isn’t a gift or a talent – it’s
a skill that they have developed.
Surprised? Well, the real surprise is that you too
can put to work their techniques and make your life happier too.
1. Happy people cooperate with life. Each
person has a destiny to fulfill. You can fight it or cooperate with
it. Does that mean you just lay back and let life happen? No. But
you can adopt the attitude that you will play the cards you are dealt
the very best you can. When you begin to cooperate with life, you
will notice new ways in which you are motivated. Life wants you to
realize your destiny. Wouldn’t you rather cooperate than battle
with life?
2. Happy people don’t just think positive,
they act positive. Thinking positive definitely has its place,
and you’ll need to change your thoughts to ever be truly happy.
But don’t wait on the feelings to come. You have direct control
over how you act and what you think (feelings and physiology are indirectly
affected). If you want to be a happier person, act happier. If you
want to be a more compassionate person, act more compassionate. If
you want to be a friendlier person, act friendlier. The feelings will
follow.
3. Happy people ask for what they need. Good
things don’t generally just fall out of the sky. Complaining
gets you nothing, except to attract you to other complainers. If you
believe that “you reap what you sow”, then asking for
what you want makes much more sense than sowing complaints. It’s
your choice-- you can choose to point fingers and assign blame, and
still end up with nothing. Or you can simply ask.
4. Happy people are willing to change.
It’s contrary to all laws of nature for things to stand still.
If you try to make that happen, you’ll always be disappointed.
If you let fear of change stop you, you are in essence *agreeing*
to not having what you want. You can believe that change will harm
you and resist it. Or you can embrace it and believe that it will
help you. It all depends on what you decide to believe.
5. Happy people don’t allow themselves
to be defeated. A failure or set back does not mean that
the goal will never be yours, nor is it evidence that you should quit.
It simply means that you need more practice, more experience. Be willing
to make mistakes. Don’t give up. Don’t allow one slipup,
or setback from the outside, influence you to erase all the progress
you’ve made. Feel the joy of the finish line!
6. Happy people live in the present.
If you are alert to the present, and anticipating the future, you
are better able to take advantage of opportunities. If you are brooding
over the past, you’ll be blinded to present possibilities, and
lose the advantage for future prospects. A happy life is the product
of living a great present. And a well lived present is a guarantee
of a wonderful future. You can only affect your future by what you
do today.
7. Happy people plan ahead. Happy
people know that they must exercise mastery in their lives, show control
in their life in order to guard against feelings of being helpless
and victims. Planning is essential to getting things done. Planning
is essential to making sure you are spending time on your priorities,
and not just the next thing that gets your attention. Plan for what’s
important to you, and choose to spend your limited time, money, energy,
and resources on it.
Kathy Gates is a Professional Life Coach in Scottsdale
AZ. If you liked this article, you’ll love her “Beat the
Procrastination Blues” program. Get more information at her
website Real Life Coach, http://www.reallifecoach.com
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